Another Thursday Purgeday

  • Walk into my home and most of the time and it will look clean and uncluttered. It may seem I am one of those people with great tips for organizing and clearing out the clutter.  (I wish!) With admiration I borrow Feng Shui and organization tips from others.

We have heard things may not always seem as they appear on the surface. That is definitely true in my home!  I am about to show you one of my deepest,  darkest secrets. Warning: the following photo is graphic!
One of my prides has been that I’m great at going through my clothing and accessories every 2 to 3 months and donating them.  Meanwhile,  (Ahem!) I am not so great at holding off on shopping for more. Another pride is my organized home ( which you now know is a facade).

Obviously I need to purge and that task began a few days ago. The hallway closet had been my stash for anything I didn’t want to part with or deal with at the moment. I began with taking everything out and created piles for keep,  toss and donate.  Lo and behold,  I had tax receipts from 10 years ago! No way had I envisioned that I was that disorganized!

The good news is as I shredded each receipt,  I literally felt lighter in spirit and body. A house fire and other memories seemed to float away. As each item was dealt with, my energy increased. In order to not feel overwhelmed, I am working on my closet project in increments.  The anticipation of an organized,  roomy closet gives me a feeling of peace.

For more peace in your life, set aside just 10 minutes today to have a Thursday Purgeday! It can be as simple as going through this weeks mail. Enjoy!

Wednesday Words 

As we hit midweek, many of us pause to reflect on our accomplishments. The weekend is beckoning us with the promise of fun, relaxation or chores completed. The “to-do ” lists,  words people have spoken and events are looping through our brains, oftentimes stealing our focus.


“Should  have,  would have” and other words that discourage  occupy our thoughts. Which words predominate? Are they affirmations,  or words of blame and hopelessness?

By now we all have heard that “Thoughts become things” and other Law of Attraction tidbits.  As creatures of habit,  we may go through our days slipping into self sabotage, thinking phrases like ” when I have the money, when I have time,” etc. Do we realize we are telling our subconscious we do not have those things now? It may be “realistic, ” but we are not going to move forward thinking that way.

There are small,  simple ways to make our thinking more productive. When we start thinking ” I don’t have the time,  change it to ” I don’t have the time now, but I will later today.”  Flip the switch! We can switch any thought to being more productive

Following are some ” Wednesday Words ”  and phrases to practice:” I can, I have, I am, happy,  joy, wealthy, healthy, organized,” etc. Say these aloud. ( I practice in the shower as to not be overheard). It truly makes a positive difference in my day,  and I hope it also will in yours.’


Thursday Purge Day!

Yes, I really am writing about purging on Thanksgiving, a day of abundance and thanks. There will be no recommendation here of purging food or martyrdom.  Nor will I suggest a day of purging your closets on a holiday.  What we should purge today are detrimental feelings!Thanksgiving

We all have unhappy memories attached to certain people or events in our lives that may surface when we gather with family. Feelings of loss, inadequacy or haunting memories may linger beneath our outward appearance of contentment. How may we purge those feelings to make the most of our day of thanks?

In feelings of loved ones lost, focus on the times they were with us instead of the lack of their physical presence. Forget the “would have, should have” thoughts.  We cannot change the past. We can focus on today and who is with us now.


We may feel inadequate at times being around people that appear to have more success than we do.  As Don Miguel Ruiz says in his book,  The Four Agreements: never make assumptions. Plus, being happy for others brings joy to ourselves.  Have you ever had a feel good feeling from a “not as good as” thought? Don’t measure yourself against others.  You are not them!  Purge your negative self talk  with gratitude for everything you have, starting with thankfulness you woke up today.


Many of us have had expectations of a happy holiday celebration crash and burn due to a variety of events:  illness, death, vehicle breakdowns, misbehavior and more. Although very unfortunate and difficult to forget, they are done. Again, we are back to the thought that we only have today. Make the goal that today will be so amazing, that no bad memories have room to roost in our brains!

My wish for you is that you may successfully purge feelings that do not serve you today; bringing you joy,  contentment and a lasting happy memory! I am truly thankful you took the time to read this.  Happy Thanksgiving today and every day!


How to Reclaim our Identities

Previously I pointed out that we had different identities as children and over time they were lost.  This loss was mostly due to words spoken to us by those guiding us; placing their expectations on us as to who we should be. Although we do choose our own paths, did we really choose what we truly wanted to do, or did we place limitations upon ourselves?

Are you content where you are?  If so, wonderful!  There is no need to continue reading this. If you are interested in reclaiming your lost identity and do not know where to start, read on:

A great starting point is to read the Toltec Wisdom books by:  Don Miguel Ruiz.  The first book I recommend starting with is The Four Agreements.  Those agreements are:th

“The Four Agreements
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best. ”

Do not assume what the book is about based upon these agreements.  You will delve deep into why you are who you are and your place in life.  Afterward, a good follow up is to read The Voice of Knowledge by the same author.


More words of wisdom come from Shad Helmstetter;  in particular his book What to Say when You talk to Yourself.  Before you think of these authors as more new-age philosophers in a bevy of Law of Attraction choices, both of these gentlemen are doctors. These philosophies in how to come back to who we really are and to live in happiness are backed by research.


Reading these books are just a start in reclaiming identity.  However, once you start and have the desire to continue, the effects will snowball and you will seek out  more inspiration. Many people find a life coach helps them to stay focused on their desires.  To find a life coach, ask successful and happy people for recommendations.







One more thing you can do is play!  Why should we stop playing as adults?  Swing on a swing, skip, pick up a basketball or Frisbee, run a race, get a game of tag going. We are promised now only, so enjoy your now!




Rat Race

Rat Race:   Does this sound familiar?

a way of life in which people are caught up in a fiercely competitive struggle for wealth or power or an exhausting, usually competitive routine
This has been all too familiar to me since the age of 14!   What I find amazing we many of us do nothing to end it, when we do have the power to change it.   Following is a short video of my thoughts when stuck in a traffic jam:


Blue and What It May Mean to You

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With the advent of the Blue Moon approaching, a curiosity arose within me as to how this could affect us. Then, I began thinking of the word “blue‘, the personalities associated with the color, the emotions it can stir and how it is used in Feng Shui. Blue is also the title of one of my favorite songs, performed and penned by the Jayhawks. 

The first thing I learned is rarely a blue moon  blue! The blue moon is an “extra” full moon in the calendar cycle. This occurs every two to three years, hence the term “once in a blue moon.”  Our next blue moon is happening on July 31, 2015, with the following blue moon showing its’ face in 2018. It would be spectacular to see a beautiful blue moon this week, but in actuality, it will be a “normal” looking full moon.  The moon does appear to be blue in select atmospheric conditions, like a volcano.

Oftentimes people refer to unusual events with the remark “there must be a full moon.” Statistics by scientists do not support this theory  but the full moon does affect some animal behavior.  The idea that our bodies are over 75% water, thus having “tides” affected by the moon as does the ocean, has been discredited.  However, most law enforcement personal and emergency room staff will attest to more unusual occurances on a full moon evening.


Astrologists believe the moon and planets do affect the Universe and all it contains. For example, Venus is in “retrograde” (appearing to move backwards). This, in conjunction with the full moon, is said to create some strong aspects involving relationships. The blue moon in Aquarius, in addition to retrogrades of other planets, has been referred to as “planets colliding.” It is supposed to be a time to take notice, make changes, and no longer put off doing things that need to be done to advance ourselves.

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Practitioners of  “Color Psychology” have related certain traits to people choosing blue as their favorite color, Among those traits are;  loyalty,genuineness and sincerity. A person associated with “blue” is also said to think before they speak, are conservative, have a need for peace, are vulnerable without appearing to be so,and caring. The downside of this personality and be rigidity, moodiness and manipulative tendencies.

Feng Shui experts have their own theories about the color blue. In Feng Shui, there needs to be a balance of the five elements:  earth. fire, water, wood and metal. Blue represents the water element. The water element is about the sky and tranquility. It is a good color to put in the “family” area of your home and should also be used next to a wood element, as water nourishes wood.

People oftentimes use the phrase “feeling blue” to describe sadness or depression.  This doesn’t jibe with other associations with blue. After some research, I found that in old seafaring days, if the captain of the ship died at sea, blue flags were flown. After arriving at port, a wide blue stripe would be painted on the vessel to signify the demise of the captain, thus came the expression “feeling blue.”

Are there things you would like to experience more than “once in a blue moon?”  Most of us would answer that with a resounding “yes!”  Many of us talk about taking more vacations and end up in a “staycation” due to chores we feel need to be done or fear of going over budget. Now is the time to change that!

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