How to Reclaim our Identities

Previously I pointed out that we had different identities as children and over time they were lost.  This loss was mostly due to words spoken to us by those guiding us; placing their expectations on us as to who we should be. Although we do choose our own paths, did we really choose what we truly wanted to do, or did we place limitations upon ourselves?

Are you content where you are?  If so, wonderful!  There is no need to continue reading this. If you are interested in reclaiming your lost identity and do not know where to start, read on:

A great starting point is to read the Toltec Wisdom books by:  Don Miguel Ruiz.  The first book I recommend starting with is The Four Agreements.  Those agreements are:th

“The Four Agreements
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best. ”

Do not assume what the book is about based upon these agreements.  You will delve deep into why you are who you are and your place in life.  Afterward, a good follow up is to read The Voice of Knowledge by the same author.


More words of wisdom come from Shad Helmstetter;  in particular his book What to Say when You talk to Yourself.  Before you think of these authors as more new-age philosophers in a bevy of Law of Attraction choices, both of these gentlemen are doctors. These philosophies in how to come back to who we really are and to live in happiness are backed by research.


Reading these books are just a start in reclaiming identity.  However, once you start and have the desire to continue, the effects will snowball and you will seek out  more inspiration. Many people find a life coach helps them to stay focused on their desires.  To find a life coach, ask successful and happy people for recommendations.







One more thing you can do is play!  Why should we stop playing as adults?  Swing on a swing, skip, pick up a basketball or Frisbee, run a race, get a game of tag going. We are promised now only, so enjoy your now!




Identity Theft

We are all victims of identity theft!  If you thought I was going to discuss ways to identity theftprevent identity theft, you are partially correct. However, as I stated in the first sentence, we already have been victims of identity theft. No, there hasn’t been another Equifax-type breach or the hacking of another major retailer (that I know of at this point.) The IRS and Social Security systems are safe from web  invaders as far as we know.  There is no concrete proof that we all have a doppelgangerHow then, have our identities been stolen?

Think way back when you were a child.  Were you a ballerina, a football player, a famous actor or adventurer? What were your interests and aspirations?  When you played “pretend” with your friends, which scenarios did you play out?  Are you living those now?  Are you what you were going to be when you “grew up”? Some of you may answer “yes,” but are you still within your true, authentic identity you had has a child?  If not, why?children playing

Perhaps adults in out lives told us to be “realistic.”  Maybe we weren’t as “good” or smart” as we thought we needed to be.  Somewhere down the road, words directed at us manifested into things.  Think about it:  we have all by now heard the phrase “thoughts become things” and may have dismissed it as a catchy trendy saying. Now, thoroughly examine the most used phrases your brain carries.  Do you tell yourself you are fat or fit, broke or abundant, happy or sad, well or sick, unfortunate or lucky?  Can you deny you are not what you tell yourself?  Are your predominant thoughts manifesting in your life? I am talking about real thoughts backed by feeling, by your subconscious, not phrases randomly tossed about.  Who has control of your thoughts and your life?  We may feel like puppets and blame others, but ultimately we have the power!  tired lady

Who stole our identity?  We did! Is it our fault?  Of course not!  Society, parents and teachers all meant well in providing us guidance.  It may be too late to change some aspects of our life, but we have now, today, to start a new chapter.  We are highly conditioned and it is difficult to break patterns, but we can.  There are many books and people to help us along the way.  Many people find a life coach beneficial.  The past is over, the future is not here yet, but we have NOW!

In the near future, I will be discussing helpful books and practices to reclaim our lives.  Stay tuned ! Be the change you wish to see!

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